The Bachelor

10/2/2002 April

I had the misfortune of seeing ABC’s The Bachelor the first time around. Seeing the many women fawn over the one man sickened me, but it was like watching an accident; I couldn’t help myself.

I didn’t even like the bachelor. I didn’t like his whiny voice, his sappy blank smile, or his seeming lack in personality or humor. I especially didn’t like that he was on this kind of TV show, thinking that he could find his ideal wife among such a group of women in such a short time—and by “such a group of women,” I mean women who think they could actually snag their ideal husband on a show like this.

So I really couldn’t understand why the women were all over him, let alone in competition for him. They hardly knew the guy, and he hardly knew any of them; yet there they were, crying when they didn’t get picked. When I heard they were going to do a second season of The Bachelor, I had absolutely no interest in it.

Having said all that, I nevertheless caught a bit of the show tonight when called to see who the new bachelor was, and I will admit that this second bachelor is much better-looking, with a more attractive voice and smile. I know nothing of his personality, as I only caught about two minutes, but I could tell he had a sense of humor when he genuinely laughed at something cute that one of the women said.

Even better about this season, when the bachelor offered a rose to the Asian woman, she hesitated. Instead of eagerly accepting his invitation to stay, like all the other women did, she asked him a qualifying question, “Do you like to dance?” She gave me the distinct impression that she was making a choice as well, and that made me smile and root for her.

You go, girl!

It’s not just about the man choosing one woman out of many; it’s also about whether or not the woman wants him in the first place.

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7 thoughts on “The Bachelor”

The quality of a relationship is a function of how well the relationship meets the needs of the two involved.

So, its not about randomly finding another person that you like, its about finding one that meets your needs AND, equally important, finding one whose needs you can meet. Reflect on this for a minute.

Of course, one must determine what their own needs are, be able to express them clearly, and then seek someone with traits that meet those needs. Looking at needs is a rarity anymore.

It is possible to learn to meet the needs of the other. Women have more experience managing relationships and most men are jerks. Therefore; generally women are burdened with the task of reshaping the men into desirable jerks.

Love is defined by commitment. Loving someone completely means being totally committed to meeting his or her needs.

That and her boobs.

Warren, well put, and I agree. But in that context, are needs the same as wants?

And Dave? LOL. You do know how to amuse, and that’s a top priority need for most. 😀

I love watching the bachelor. I am so glad that he did not pick Christy. She was crazy! I think that he is meant to be with Brooke. They make a great couple, and are honest with each other!

No, April. Wants change from holiday to holiday. Needs are the reason that two people can live with each other in spite of their faults.

Every man wants an attractive woman. Look around, lots of not-attractive women managed to snag a man. They simply met the needs. And there are plenty of divorces between attractive couple, so wants is not enough.

Needs is so much easier to fulfill than wants. How many ‘2nd buys’ have you made. Young people tend to have many duplicates of the same items: like sunglasses, watches, and tv’s. Each filling the wants at the time.

But find that “thing” that fills the needs and one can never part with it. One is frustrated when the things is lost or sadden when things becomes unusable. You don’t believe me? Check your stuff, again.

When someone meets your needs you become committed to the relationship. You want to meet their needs so that they will continue to unselfishly meet your needs. Unless each has the
needs met, the relationship is at best “unfulfilling,” and at worse, ugly and harmful.

And so hi, what an amazing site! I want to know how you did it.

"How did you do it?"

Whilst I was searching around for your email, I found this in which case I thought it funny you can’t help but be intersted but say you are not. I javen’t seen the Bachelor but if it’s like any game show on TV where you get to win a partner – they’re all pretty lame – bottomline line –> do "you" just want to find a man (or woman). Is that the "magnet".

"a second season of The Bachelor, I had absolutely no interest in it."

" but it was like watching an accident; I couldn’t help myself."

"and that made me smile and root for her.

You go, girl!"

And so hi, what an amazing site! I want to know how you did it. Whilst

I was searching around I found this in which case I thought it funny you can’t help but be intersted but say you are not. I javen’t seen the Bachelor but if it’s like any game show on TV where you get to win a partner – they’re all pretty lame – bottomline line –> do "you" just want to find a man (or woman). Is that the "magnet".